“Sod grass and Marriage”
My husband and I had decided to purchase some sod for our yard to fill in an area near the back porch. The small area kept a gummy, muddy bottom that the kids loved to pass through as they headed back inside, and I had the green light to go pick up the solution. As I contacted a local Sod company, I mentioned I didn’t need much, just a strip of “those squares of grass” to line the back side of the house. Thank goodness the man on the other end of the phone sensed the blonde streaks in my hair and commented, “Maam, you will need a trailer to pick this pallet of sod up….” I had every intention of showing up for pick up in my suburban completely unaware of the weight, spiders and dirt involved with a pallet of sod and was shocked when a forklift approached me.
Marriage reminds me a lot of this story. We can be blissfully unaware of weight accumulating with poor communication. We can find ourselves caught off guard by irritating disturbances and end up covered in resentment. Life will always be filled with unforeseen mishaps, but how we communicate and navigate with our partner determines the outcome. Communicating our needs, offering suggestions, and openly providing information helps to build a stronger outcome, despite any mishaps that could occur.
Have you ever assumed your spouse’s emotional state was good? It might seem like an odd question to ask, but without healthy communication they might be carrying a surprisingly heavy weight internally.
Ever considered asking your spouse if there is anything you could do or say differently to help them feel supported? Often, we assume our natural approach works, but sometimes we find out our habits are more irritating than helpful.
Lastly, have you and your spouse ever asked each other this…. “What do we need to be specifically praying for together within our marriage?” Asking one another this question offers an opportunity to pray as a team and combat the lies of the enemy. The devil stirs up confusion, misconstrues messages, and muddies up situations, but God guides us to order, clarity and success.
Don’t be caught off guard within your marriage with unexpected weight, irritating disturbances and loads of dirt in your face. Take time to communicate and build a clear picture of your spouse’s needs so you can face life’s unexpected moments stronger together.
